#1 Stop being desperate. Stop acting like you can’t live w/o that person in your life. Stop being desperate for people to notice you. Stop seeking external validation. There’s nothing wrong w/ wanting compliments but desperate for compliments from others? We don’t do that here.
How do I fix that, you ask? Shower yourself all the compliments you’d wanna hear from others.
#2 Stop toning down your character for humbling others. It doesn’t mean you meet a person for the first time and be like look at my superiority complex but know your worth. You don’t have to prove it anyone. You let people know your worth thru your daily actions. The way your carry yourself, the way you express yourself. Okay you might be wrong so what? The people who laugh at you for being wrong don’t even have the guts to voice their opinion.
#3 Build your character. Write down your moral code and the things you stand for. Nothing is powerful than you knowing yourself. Be a baddie, voice your opinions all that but don’t be a menace. Being mannerless isn’t hot.
#4 Be assertive about your boundaries. Don’t be like ‘i’ll give them a second chance and then I’ll tell them…’ No. Once a cheater, always a cheater. They cross your boundaries once, might do it again. So let them know and don’t be afraid if they walk away from your life. It ain’t your fault they chose trash over Gold.
#5 Thoughts -> Choices -> Behaviours -> Change. Revamp your self concept first. Once you change your thoughts everything will shift. If you keep thinking those same outdated, mediocre thoughts you’re life will stay the same. People have healed themselves of deadly diseases by changing their thoughts.
#6 Prioritize your goals. Never change your work schedule for the sake of some person, especially a guy. Stop having all these crushes, it’s literally embarrassing. Stop putting other people on the pedestal! You are the main character.
#7 Stop being so invested in other people’s lives. Have conversations w/ yourself instead. What they do is none of your business.
i love being my own dream girl! giving myself princess treatment, pampering myself, protecting my peace and perfecting my form all at the same time. nothing can change the fact that I’m HER! ❤︎₊ ⊹
Hello girlies! This is a post that I have been delaying for like 2 weeks, but now it’s time or me to post it. In this blog I will give you all the things I do to keep myself getting high grades and maintain the “intelligent” persona I have worked for since I started studying my college career and fortunately others see me this way now.
I do not study hevy or know a lot about studying methods, I am more into “smart work > hard work” kind of thing
My personal tips
This are my tips being an auditory person focused on being effortless
Understand your learning style: Are you visual? Auditory? Or kinesthetic? By knowing this you can apply studying methods that are efficient for you.
Pay attention to your classes!: I think the main reason I slay effortlessly my exams is because of this so I only need a quick study. You will be saving future time since your study sessions will be lighter because you will remember lots of the things.
Participate / Ask questions: It’s easy, you will get points with your teachers as a great student, plus you will get your questions solved.
Put your on a place you can’t see it so it doesn’t distract you, for classes or when you need to study / get work done.
Study in a place when you feel comfortable, it can be at an cafe or at the library, even in your bedroom at a desk, what matters is that you feel comfortable and that you get the feel of “this is a place where I can study / do my assignments” and not feel lazy or uncomfortable by “x or y” reason. As a plus, keep your space clean and only with the necessary at sight.
Use music that doesn’t distract you and you vibe with: Listen to music that doesn’t have lyrics, but that’s a basic by now. What I recommend you is to listen to music that you just vibe with to get your desired mood and motivation. In my case, I listen to videogame soundtracks since it makes me feel relaxed or to classical music because I fee like “that business girly”, either way music helps me concentrate.
Romanticize your studies: This can mean different things to all of you reading this post, I am talking about making your academic journey fun and pleasing rather than streesing! Some ideas are having cute stationery, take cute notes, act like one of your fav academic characters, have study playlists, drinking coffee, go to the library or to cafes, dress cute for school, read, light candles, watch “study with me” videos and study vlogs, create a pinterest board, stablish academic goals, etc.
Do your homework when you have free time at school / college or do it as a first thing after your schedule, this will help you save time. Think about it, if you do it while having free time at school / college you don’t need to do it at home. And if you need to do it at home, if done as the first thing, you will either way get so much free time and can focus on other tasks or activities freely.
Be organized: Have a bullet journal or use an app to keep track of your subjects and assignments. By this you will remember and keep in sight upcoming deadlines and events.
Take care of your academic relationships: I make sure that the people inside my circle of friends are girls (mainly, but boys too) who I feel comfortable, have fun with but also are similar to me in the sense that they take seriously her studies and are good teammates. Outside of them I also focus on other potential classmates that are intelligent and have similar values. There is no need to bother on the ones who don’t attend classes, are irresponsable and don’t even know what are they doing in the course.
Take care of yourself: Ask yourself? Will it be worth it while not sleeping enough, having a poor diet and exercise? By not letting yourself rest or have fun from time to time? By not practicing self-care? By not practicing any hobby or taking the time for your interests ? Please take care of yourself, girl, this is the lowest part of the pyramid. The reason to care is not only your wellbeing, but also because having a poor lifestyle can have bad effects for you that also affect your performance, and we won’t like that.
Wake up on time. We don’t want to be stressed first thing in the morning, right?
Eat breakfast. So you will be able to better focus in class.
Assigned reading and homework. Make sure you are prepared for your classes!! :)
Review your notes. Going through some of your flashcards before class is really helpful.
Check your bag and charge your devices. Ensure you have everything you need: Books, homework, chargers, pens, water…
In Class ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆
Listen and pay attention. You can save yourself a lot of trouble by simply paying attention, trust me.
Take notes. My favourite note-taking method is the Cornell method; I can make a separate post on that!! <3
“Quick notes.” If you struggle with note-taking, try taking quick and messy notes. You can clean them up once you get home!!
Engage. If you have any questions or don’t understand something, make sure to ask!! Most teachers really appreciate students who speak up. :)
No distractions. Turn off your phone, no chatting, you’ll be glad…
After class ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆
Finish your assignments as soon as you can. Go home, put on a cosy outfit, have a snack, and get working!! <3
Prepare flash cards. A great way of reviewing your notes, too… :)
Update your Study schedule. Write down any assignment and due dates, reading you must do, upcoming tests, etc…
Clean up your notes. Review them, highlight the important parts, and maybe even make them look cute!! :)
Don’t avoid topics/Subjects you dislike. I know it is tempting, but you can’t avoid them forever, so you might as well get them done
Structure and routine ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆
Goals and Priorities. Keep them realistic and manageable.
Time management. Having a set schedule makes studying less overwhelming; it takes some discipline but is so worth it!! <3
Develop a routine. Figure out what works best for you; I prefer studying in the morning or at night.
No “zero days”. Even if you can only do a bit, do it!! NO. ZERO. DAYS.
Remember your goals. Dreams will keep you motivated; remind yourself of what you’re working for!! <3
Self-care and balance ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆
Don’t forget about your hobbies. You need to do things that make you happy, so make time for those things!!
Maintain a balanced diet. I know chocolates and junk are tempting, especially when you are busy studying all day, but you’re not doing yourself any favours.
Sleep. Sleep. Sleep. 8 Hours. Non-negotiable.
Exercise regularly. Even if it’s just a walk, put on some headphones, listen to music, and give yourself a break. <3
Care for your social life. Reach out to your friends, make plans, and keep in touch; a good work-life balance is critical!!
Romanticising ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆
Study dates. Meet up with your friends at a cosy cafe, discuss your work, and have some fun!! Studying doesn’t have to be all serious all the time ;)
Silly Pinterest boards. Visualising your goals will help you find motivation!!
Music to set the mood. I have a bunch of playlists on my Spotify that might help!! <3
Cosy sweater and candles. The cosy Rory Gilmore vibes haha…
Getting a coffee before class. A little treat before things get serious… Simple pleasures, you know? :)
Babes, The hiatus is OVER, and I’m finally back!! I got a lot of asks on studying, burnout, and school in general, so I thought, why not start off with a little student guide?? I Hope October has been kind to you, and school hasn’t been too overwhelming (though I know it, unfortunately, has been for many of you), and I’m glad to finally be back!! <33
As always, Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!!
